(I have testimonials now!)
January 1st 2022 marked the start of my newest season, Romance. Overall my life is pretty fantastic, but I'm still looking for a long-term relationship, preferably on my way to marriage and at least one bio-kid within the next couple years. So I picked this season to really commit to that goal in every way I could think of, which includes things like just, you know, openly saying to everyone who might find me interesting "Hey, I'm single and looking to date" and seeing what happens.
Overall my life is pretty fantastic. I write, see my therapy clients remotely, and travel fairly often to speak at or run various events around the world. It's been a long time since I've felt like there was much distinction between work and play, and I feel pretty amazed sometimes by how much of my life I get to spend just doing things I want, whether it's creating things, helping people, reading and playing games, or seeing my friends and partners.
But there is one major thing missing: I'm still looking for a primary relationship that's on its way to marriage and kids within the next couple years. I love my travel-life, but I also want a partner I feel excited to spend my days building a life together with, and raising some cool people to share that life with. My fantasy future is one where I get to continue to work from home while coparenting, but I'm also happy to take on most of the childcare if my wife is super career focused.
If you're here, maybe you're interested in me based on my writing, or passions for rationality and psychology and fiction. If so, great! Those are things I enjoy talking about, so we'd probably get along well.
But the quickest way to my heart would be if you're into some combination of rationality, video games, running events, or writing. I say that because I've always been a very "activities oriented" boyfriend. I enjoy cuddling together with a pair of books or watching a show, but everyone I've fallen in love with was through either playing games together, or co-writing/RP, or debating intellectual topics, or discussing ways to create new experiences for others, whether it be immersive learning games or rationality workshops or LARPs. If the idea of spending hours doing those things makes you happy, then there's a good chance we'll be able to make each other happier together than we would be apart.
The other thing that matters a lot to me is personal development. It's deeply important to me to always be learning, growing, and improving myself in every way I can. That's not to say I'm "Type A," since my day to day tends to be pretty chill; girlfriends have said they find me very calming to be around. But if I notice something isn't working for me or those I care about, I want to improve it, and I'm pretty agentic in doing so.
By default I enjoy taking care of my partners a lot, both emotionally and physically, but the people I love most are those also interested in that sort of reflection, understanding, and self-improvement too. I'm looking for someone who will be happy to help me improve more than I could on my own, and is looking for someone to do the same for them. Someone to tackle life's problems with together, and help each other flourish and become our best selves.
If you think that describes you, feel free to fill out this form and we'll see what happens! Or if you're on Glosso, maybe check me out and message me there @Daystar Eld
If you think that describes you, feel free to fill out this form and we'll see what happens!
I am doing this, after all ^_o
(Also, I'm willing to relocate for romance if things work out well. Meanwhile we can get to know each other online, and since I work remotely, I'm happy to do short or long visits to spend time together if we hit it off!)